Yes, Fifty Shades of Grey.. who would've thought that I'd be learning so much from this so-called erotic novel? When the book first came out, women basically clamoring over it.. I on the other hand obviously wasn't on the wagon. Until...I saw the movie trailer (drools over Jamie Dornan hehe.. they're making a movie based on the novel, will be out on Val's Day next year). Okay so I thought I'll read the book. My review:
The author, E.L. James is clearly not a good writer. If you like to read and has been reading in your whole life you'd understand.
Yes, she succeeded in feeding women (maybe men as well) with all those erotically written ehem! (no wonder it was such a hit! From E-book to paper to #1 New York Times Bestseller)
Overall, the plot, the story WAS NOT MY CUP OF TEA.
But being typical me, I always try to find something that I could have at least learn or relate to. No. I am not not referring to the sexual act or BDSM you prefer to call it. I found out that WOMEN being us... is just so COMPLICATED. Anastasia is actually the epitome of women. Us, women are so complicated that we tend to make our partner's life miserable. When I read about Anastasia, I realized that she is really like me.
We tend to think that MEN should understand us more.. whereas we did not make any effort to understand them. Lost? Okay let me show you:
The author, E.L. James is clearly not a good writer. If you like to read and has been reading in your whole life you'd understand.
Yes, she succeeded in feeding women (maybe men as well) with all those erotically written ehem! (no wonder it was such a hit! From E-book to paper to #1 New York Times Bestseller)
Overall, the plot, the story WAS NOT MY CUP OF TEA.
But being typical me, I always try to find something that I could have at least learn or relate to. No. I am not not referring to the sexual act or BDSM you prefer to call it. I found out that WOMEN being us... is just so COMPLICATED. Anastasia is actually the epitome of women. Us, women are so complicated that we tend to make our partner's life miserable. When I read about Anastasia, I realized that she is really like me.
We tend to think that MEN should understand us more.. whereas we did not make any effort to understand them. Lost? Okay let me show you:
- Ana tends to ask a lot of question.. I mean A LOT.. (Are you gay Mr. Grey? Why don't you like to be touched? Do you have a girlfriend? yada yada.. One question is okay if you keep repeating the same one ... improvising it.. then I think you should for once take a deep breath and STOP asking question.
- Ana tries to be perfect to be a goddess for Christian. No one's perfect, deal with it. Just be yourself in any relationship. That person will love you for who you are. But in a different situation men at first will usually try to coop with their partner's bad behaviors and then there will come a stage where they had enough and ask you to change (usually for the sake of the relationship). If that person wants you to change for good then the decision is all in your hand.
- Ana always tries to fix the situation when/after she had an argument with Christian. But the thing is men likes to be given some time to cool down. Some space. Men, they don't get mad that long. Trust me. Why? Because men tend to be simple and easy and will try to avoid conflicts with their partners. But for women when we're mad and angry, we like to be cared, to be persuaded gently and we sulk.. big time! and we naturally love to fix things.. I mean anything..
- Ana is always insecure about herself and about her relationship with Christian. I can really relate to this. Men are attracted to confident women. Personally confident for me is when you feel comfortable in your own skin, humble and being able NOT to compare yourself to others. Yes, he had his past relationship but he is with you now. You need to be able to trust that person.
- Ana is naive, childish. Yes, most women are naive and childish. Men on the other hand prefer matured women. That's why in the story, Christian will always runs back to Elena for advised and a place to talk to. Elena on the other hand is a matured and an experienced lady.
But the strongest base of Ana and Christian's relationship is the fact that they communicate. Yes, communication is the best thing in a relationship. You talk, discuss and share things with your partner. You tell the smallest things, the stupidest things, you share secrets and you just talk. You laugh and you share your concerns almost everything. So good for you Ana and Christian.
I and my husband is far from having a prefect relationship. We argue, we talked just like any other ordinary husband and wife do. The thing is, if you want to have the perfect relationship both sides need to work their ass off. Work really really hard. There's no such thing as a happily ever after kind of marriage that is the reality. So if you want your relationship to be happy, work it girl!
"Men aren't really complicated, Ana, honey. They are very simple, literal creatures. They usually mean what they say. And we spend hours trying to analyze what they've said, when really it's obvious." -
Carla Adams (Fifty Shades of Grey)
Carla Adams (Fifty Shades of Grey)
*On another serious side of review, please visit http://www.huffingtonpost.com/carey-purcell/fifty-shades-of-grey-feminism_b_2395932.html